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  • Writer's pictureEllie Bass

Navigating Divorce: A Journey of Self-Care and Personal Growth in the Jewish Community

Updated: May 30, 2023


Divorce is never easy. It's a complex journey filled with emotional twists and turns. For individuals in the Jewish community, this process can be even more challenging due to cultural nuances. The Jewish community often views marriage as a priority, and divorce is unfortunately perceived as a failure. This blog post, inspired by the insights of Ellie Bass and David Rosenthal, seasoned coaches and healers with personal divorce experiences and a deep knowledge of Jewish education, offers a roadmap to navigate divorce with grace, resilience, and self-discovery.


1. Understanding the Unique Challenges of Jewish Divorce

Every divorce journey is unique, shaped by numerous factors and dynamics. The Jewish community, however, grapples with additional specific challenges. The stigma surrounding divorce can be oppressive. In Orthodox circles, it's rarely a polite conversation topic. Even beyond, the shadow of this stigma can loom large, making it difficult for many to cast their experience in a positive light.

Consider these reflection questions as a guide:

  • What are your thoughts on your marriage and divorce from a Jewish perspective?

  • What do you need to know to navigate this process Jewishly?

Remember this affirmation: Your Jewish community and faith form part of your support system. Engage with a Rabbi or Jewish teacher who can guide you through the spiritual aspects and rituals like getting a 'get' (religious divorce document).


2. Overcoming the Stigma

The first crucial step to overcoming this stigma is reframing your experience. Instead of viewing divorce as a failure, consider it an opportunity for a fresh start and personal growth. Remember, your divorce doesn't define you, and you possess the strength to create a new life for yourself.



3. Embracing Self-Care

It's essential to prioritize self-care during the divorce process. This means paying attention to your physical and mental health: eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep. Don't forget about the importance of maintaining your social relationships; isolation can lead to more harm than good.


4. Importance of Relationships

Keeping strong, meaningful connections can offer you support, feedback, and guidance as you navigate the difficulties of divorce. Don't hesitate to reach out to friends and family, or consider joining a support group with others who are also going through a divorce.


5. Assembling Your Support Team

A coach or someone who's been through a divorce can be an invaluable resource. They provide you with guidance, support, and hope, particularly when you might be feeling hopeless. Finding your 'team' to help you through this journey can make a significant difference.


6. Defining Your Future Self

Divorce provides a moment to step back and reflect on who you want to be. Would you rather be your best self during this transition, or would you let yourself fall apart? Take the time to introspect and envision who you want to be during this time of change.


7. Exploring Jewish Education

Those with a Jewish educational background may face complex questions about spirituality and tradition during divorce. Remember, your faith and your relationship with God are independent of your marital status. Dive into Jewish texts and traditions to seek comfort and meaning during these trying times.


8. The Healing Process

Divorce can leave deep emotional scars. Prioritize healing from the pain and loss, and work through your emotions in a healthy, constructive way. Therapy, self-reflection, or spiritual practices can be helpful tools in this healing process.


9. Focusing on the Future

Concentrating on the future and building a new life for yourself is a crucial aspect of navigating divorce. Whether it's pursuing new interests, forging new relationships, or focusing on self-care, remember that you are resilient enough to overcome the challenges that lie ahead.

Divorce is a tough journey, but the right perspective and support can help you transform it into a journey of personal growth and self-discovery. Take care of yourself, find your support team, and always remember who you want to be during this process. By embracing these insights, you can discover the strength and comfort needed to redefine your life and create a promising future for yourself.

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